how to achieve eternal fulfillment & peak success

Solving the Self-Actualization Paradox
Success and Beyond: Letter of Progression #2
Jan 15th, 2024

A couple of hours ago I finished my first “𝕏 rebrand”, and with that came a new profile bio.

The second sentence of this bio reads, “I help committed individuals reach the ultimate peak of self-actualization.”

If I’d read this a year ago, I’d be dying to know how to reach this so-called “ultimate peak of self-actualization.”

This is because back then, reaching self-actualization was my big goal in life. My endgame, so to speak.

(For those who don’t know, self-actualization is when an individual reaches his or her full potential)

I thought achieving it would make my life perfect, eliminate all my worries, desires, and needs, and keep me happy & fulfilled 24/7 because I’d finally have “made it.”

Today, I’m here to tell you that self-actualization is kinda both possible AND impossible to achieve. After that, I’ll teach you the EXACT STEPS that’ll take you to this ultimate state.

To start things off, here is the Success Pyramid.

You’d probably instinctively know that this is the key to achieving any feasible goal in existence.

If not, I hope you know now.

You must believe in yourself, take action, and then learn & improve over and over again before you reach one goal (the peak of the pyramid).

The Peak of 1 Pyramid = Achieving 1 Goal.

But self-actualization calls for us to reach our full potential and essentially become perfect in all possible aspects.

But there isn’t a fixed list of goals to achieve for us to become perfect.

Moreover, you could probably find an infinite number of goals to work towards. So does that mean Self-Actualization = The Peak of ∞ Pyramids?

If we take the general way of looking at the idea of self-actualization, then yes.

This means achieving self-actualization is impossible… or is it?

Let’s first ask ourselves a question. Why do we want to reach our full potential and become perfect?

If you’re anything like me from a year ago, you’d probably think that self-actualization is the only way to achieve fulfillment, eternal happiness, and the sense that you’ve “made it” in life.

This is where the biggest fallacy in all of self-improvement comes into the picture.

The Success = Happiness Trap.

The narrative that you’ll be happy and fulfilled for the rest of eternity once you achieve success is completely false.

Now, I’m going to make two assertions:

1. All you need to attain eternal fulfillment & joy are: 

   • disidentifying from the mind &

   • delving into the present moment.

2. Self-actualization is not a destination, but an infinite journey.

Success is not a goal. Success is a process that never ends.

This is the solution to the Self-Actualization Paradox.

As for the first assertion, all emotions (both positive & negative) are products of the mind, and so, disidentifying should free us of them.

Why is that a good thing? 

Although it may seem like we desire pleasure/positive emotions, the only reason we do is because they silence the mind for a short while.

Deep down, we wish to transcend The Duality Loop and be in sync with life in the present moment.

Many people love dangerous activities like skydiving or paragliding because they force us to focus on the present moment and silence our thoughts.

But you don’t have to blindly believe what I say. Try disidentification out for yourself, and let your own experiences paint your views.

Now, how do you disidentify from the mind and begin playing the infinite game of self-actualization?

Well, let me make the steps very clear.

Mind Disidentification:

This is a process that becomes easy to do for moments at a time, but disidentifying forever is something that’ll take weeks and months to master.

Here are the mini-goals you must stack to achieve this:

• Study self-inquiry/Advaita Vedanta (or another non-duality philosophy)

• Watch guided meditations & videos

• Practice self-inquiry meditation for 20 minutes 2x a day

• Accept everything that happens on your journey to achieving this goal

Self-Actualization:

When I was younger, I loved playing badminton. 

Whenever I played the sport, time would go slower, all my worries would disappear, and the match would become the only thing that mattered. 

I’d be laser-focused on destroying my opponent, but even if I lost, I’d still be happy because I had so much fun playing.

If I could retain that state of ease, oneness, and joy for the rest of my life, I’d be in heaven.

I’m here to tell you that you can maintain such a state throughout your day, irrespective of what you’re doing. 

Enjoying the journey of reaching goals allows you to do that.

Self-actualization is therefore not about reaching all possible goals so you can finally rest.

It’s about playing an “eternal game of badminton” where you’re fully in control and sync with life, as you chase your goals just for their own sake.

Start by affirming that you already have everything you NEED to be happy. What is that “everything”? It’s your consciousness.

Practicing mind disidentification will gradually transform you into someone who lives fully in the present moment, is happy and calm no matter what happens, and has complete faith in life & himself.

As you cultivate this mindset, continue chasing the goals that you wish to achieve. 

You don’t need to become perfect. That’s impossible.

But continue striving towards perfection as much as you can, while doing the things that matter most to you.

For me, the goals that matter to me the most in this stage of life are:

• Improving my physique & physical health

• Continuing to disidentify from the mind

• Growing my online business

• Learning more about the world

Along with these, I also have some “less important, yet equally as fun to work towards” goals:

• Continuing to learn Spanish

• Getting better at Impromptu Speaking

• Getting better at storytelling

• Improving my charisma

It doesn’t matter what goals you chase, because being mind-disidentified will mean that you’ll no longer need success to feel better about yourself.

Along with that, being focused on the present moment will also make doing the “right tasks” and quitting addictions automatic.

If you find yourself doing bad habits or not sticking to tasks, just accepting things as they are and taking the necessary action in the present moment is all you need to catch yourself.

With that, I’ll be ending today’s letter.

I hope this letter helped you out, and stay tuned for next week's letter.

Kishore out!

(P.S. If you’re still here… I just wanted to let you know that I’m running FREE 1:1 consulting calls to help you achieve your dream life. Message me on 𝕏 for more details. See you there!)